the Law of Attraction doesn’t understand the word “no”

Posted by Sebastyn in My Favourite Posts, The Law of Attraction | 2 comments

Nov 24, 11

A new friend of mine wrote, The Law of Attraction doesn’t understand the word ‘no’ in an email to me, and at first I just nodded, “that’s right”, but then, the profoundness of the sentence started to emerge. Firstly, the universe will never deny you anything. It does not know how to say “no, you can’t have it.” Secondly, it doesn’t understand when you tell it you don’t want something. The universe doesn’t understand negative thoughts or why you would have them. What ever you ask for, it will remove any trace of ‘no’ you put in. “I don’t want any more debt!” “I don’t want a cheating boyfriend!” All it knows is the intensity of your emotion you put into that thought, so the more you think “I don’t want” the more it hears “I want!” It makes no judgement as to what you want, no matter how crazy it would sound to you or me to want something, the Universe shrugs its shoulders and goes: “Well, what ever rocks your boat, mate!” and delivers. That is why it is so important to replace your negative thoughts with positive ones.

I can tell from personal experience that sifting thoughts from “don’t want” to “want” doesn’t happen over night, but it is very important to encourage positive thoughts. We are so used to focusing on things we don’t want, it can be ridiculously difficult to imagine what we would want. Through our childhoods, we’ve been educated that it is unrealistic to want this or that, or that you need money to have that, or you need to live somewhere else to do this, and we are even made feel ridiculous for being hopeful and rewarded for having negative thoughts! As a child, when we had doubts and fears, we got attention from adults who would try to cheer us up. The positive thoughts didn’t have such power over our parents, they were just happy to see us happy and leave us alone. But if we got too positive, they would try to warn us about the dangers of thinking too positively and try to “tone us down”, and our subconscious mind learned to stop us from thinking “too positive” before it even happens. And eventually we start to focus on things we don’t want to do, in the thought pattern of: “Well, I know I can’t have EVERYTHING I want, but at least I know what I definitely DO NOT want.” The universe hears: “Well, I know I can have EVERYTHING I want, and I know what I definitely want…” and that will be followed by a list of things you really don’t want, making the law of attraction work against you.

You don’t have to believe in the law of attraction to benefit from scraping the “don’t” from your thoughts though. Focusing on what you want, the positive thoughts, rather than what you don’t want, negative thoughts, is in itself a powerful mode for your subconscious mind to be in. It will pull you towards your goal instead of trying to avoid the bad stuff like a cowboy made to “dance” to avoid the bullet, getting nowhere. The most successful people on the planet focus on what they want instead of what they want to avoid, as one of the effects of “don’t want” thinking pattern is that once you have managed to avoid the bad thing, you’ll run out of energy until you have to avoid the bad thing again. Reaching toward the good stuff will keep you going for a lot longer and the bad thing to avoid starts to lose it’s power over your subconscious mind.

First thing to do to scrape the “don’t” forever is to allow yourself to dream again, allow yourself to have positive thoughts. You have to realize that although your subconscious mind has been, most likely, conditioned to believe that having negative thoughts makes you smarter, that’s obviously not true. To harness the power of the law of attraction, dream the impossible dream, read inspirational stories, listen to TED talks – they always make me feel positive. The negatively thinking people may say that the motivation of inspirational stories don’t last long, but that’s why you have to keep finding more. You have to feed yourself with positive thoughts. Tell yourself that dreams are free, and you have every right to them. Then, allow yourself the thought: “If I could do/have ANYTHING I wanted, what would it be?” Chances are you don’t even know what you truly want at first, but once you practise you’ll find more and more things that truly rock your boat. Sometimes, you’ll find that your true dreams are a lot easier (cheaper) to achieve than the dreams you’ve been chasing after out of habit more than out of true desire – and that is already a good reason to free up your dreams. Once you find your true dream, your deepest desire, (and it may even surprise yourself, mainly by “how did I miss this?!”) you will feel like a whole new person. It will resonate with you on a deep level, and it will probably be difficult to stop thinking about it, because the thought feels so good! Having positive thoughts will also empower your subconscious mind to work on your behalf and find a way to do what you want to achieve. And that’s exactly how you want it – law of attraction or not!

If you happen to be drinking while reading this, may I suggest a toast? Dare to dream! Let’s drink to that! (I’ll have to get a refill of soda, and I’ll join you.)